Be Your Own Valentine

By Herman M. Lagon

Valentine’s Day typically evokes romantic visions of lavish gifts, elaborate dinners, and extravagant gestures to win over that “special someone.” However, what if this Day also reminded you to treat yourself with the same respect and care? Why not take a moment to value yourself rather than concentrate solely on others? It must be worthwhile to go above and beyond for ourselves if we are prepared to do so for others.

Though many authors and wellness advocates have long promoted self-love on Valentine’s Day, it may seem novel to some. Building healthy relationships requires self-love. Not just a feel-good idea, self-love boosts resilience, mental health, and happiness. Celebrating yourself on February 14 may be the most meaningful way to show love, regardless of relationship status.

Valentine’s Day often involves crowded malls and overbooked restaurants. These romantic rituals become more expensive, leading to a consumer-driven environment that leaves little opportunity for introspection. Furthermore, these intricate plans frequently feel more draining than pleasurable. Let us face it: Spending time concentrating on yourself, with no one else to please but yourself, can be a welcome change.

Self-love is sometimes dismissed as indulgent, but imagine spending Valentine’s Day as the center of attention. Purchase the treat you have been eyeing or a Toblerone for yourself. Self-love does not have to be extravagant; sometimes, the most straightforward actions are the most effective. Get your favorite milkshake, take the spa package, curl up with a book, have a daylong retreat, watch your favorite Netflix series, get a complete 8-hour sleep, or find a quiet place to relax. Why should we not be as considerate toward ourselves as our partners, assuming we have one?

Self-esteem significantly impacts relationships. The Philippine Statistics Authority reports rising mental health issues, especially those juggling work, family, and social life. Taking time to affirm ourselves reduces our dependence on others. Self-confidence helps us be better friends, partners, and coworkers by freeing us from trying to please others. Many of our values echo this lesson: developing genuine, meaningful connections requires self-awareness.

Some people fear being alone on Valentine’s Day. This is a deeply rooted mentality and a cultural problem. However, we can change the Day from one of comparison to one of personal celebration by changing our focus from loneliness to self-appreciation and reflection. Even people in relationships can benefit from taking time away from their responsibilities as partners, spouses, or parents to practice self-love.

When did you last appreciate yourself? Self-compassion boosts resilience and well-being, and Valentine’s Day is the perfect time to celebrate your successes. Accepting your future and forgiving past mistakes is also important. “You spend most of your life with yourself; make it a pleasant one,” as the saying goes.

Since teachers devote much time and energy to their students’ development, this concept of self-appreciation holds special significance for them. Valentine’s Day could serve as a chance for them to express gratitude for their efforts—a straightforward yet potent reminder of the difference they make. A break to enjoy a favorite coffee, a treat for a movie, or a night off for a me-time night out can refresh a teacher’s sense of commitment and purpose.

Deciding to love oneself is also a silent act of fortitude, a tiny defiance of social pressure. We defy expectations that tell us we are not complete on our own when we value ourselves. Valentine’s Day is about love, including self-love. Honoring our relationship with ourselves on February 14 strengthens our ability to face life’s challenges with courage and hope.

If you are single on Valentine’s Day, enjoy your love instead of “waiting” for it. If you are in a relationship, reconnect with yourself. After all, two complete people who decide to be together are the foundation of any healthy relationship. Love is beautiful in all its manifestations, but it is most radiant when it starts with self-acceptance.

Love’s greatest gift is its capacity to uplift, empower, and remind us of our worth, regardless of whether you are spending Valentine’s Day alone or with someone else. Let all forms of love, beginning with your own love for yourself, be a part of the festivities this February 14. In addition to making your life richer and deeper, valuing who you are guarantees that expressing love comes from a place of true happiness and contentment.

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Doc H fondly describes himself as a “student of and for life” who, like many others, aspires to a life-giving and why-driven world grounded in social justice and the pursuit of happiness. His views do not necessarily reflect those of the institutions he is employed or connected with.