Divorce-free city in the World

By: Modesto P. Sa-onoy 

THE article by this title was by Plinio Maria Solimeo and published in John Horvat’s Return to Order. I received it on July 27. It is so extraordinary that it is worth sharing in this country where some legislators think legalized divorce is progressive and will solve marital differences.

What’s the situation in the modernistic marital world that Sen. Riza Hontiveros wants to emulate?

Solimeo says, “The family is one of the institutions most affected by the crisis in our decadent times. Religious and moral sentiments have practically disappeared as if torn to bits. The divorce rate is overwhelming — an estimated 50% of marriages fall apart. Added to this, there are illicit unions, which are common and seemingly without consequences.”

We have not reached this level of marital break-ups but there are marriages that had fallen apart, some annulled and some separated couples live in illicit unions.

“That is why it does so much good to hear that despite the malice of the times, there is a city in this world that has not surrendered to universal depravity and in which family bonds are so strong that there is no record of divorce.”

This city is in Siroki-Brijeg, Bosnia with approximately 26,000 inhabitants of Croatian origin. They have always defended their Catholic faith even in the face of the worst adversities, like the Muslim invasion centuries ago and the boot of atheist Communism when the faith was tested in every possible way.

Reports from several trusted Catholic sites say that “Siroki-Brijeg is remarkable … for in the collective memory of all, there has never been a single divorce among the Croatian Catholics of the city.”


What is the explanation for this remarkable fact?

Solemeo said that this fact of nobody ever divorcing “is consistent with its profound Croatian tradition. The population of this city is almost 100% Catholic, and they live their faith very seriously. They consider it a point of honor to defend the indissolubility of marriage and the monogamous family formed by the union of a man and a woman – as stated in the country’s Constitution – with the blessings of Holy Mother Church.

“However, what marks this profoundly religious attitude is that they see marriage as a cross indissolubly united to the Cross of Christ. This leads spouses to face their union without romanticism, false expectations, or illusions. Realistically, they know that in this valley of tears everyone has defects. There is no mutual understanding without a mutual exercise of patience.

“This Catholic view of marriage is what prevents the incidence of divorce and separations. However, this attitude finds physical expression in a custom. During their married life, the spouses find strength by praying together before the crucifix they hold together during the religious wedding ceremony.

“In this ceremony, the priest blesses the crucifix presented by the bride and groom. He places the bride’s right hand upon the crucifix, then that of the groom upon hers, and covers them with a stole. The couple then makes their vows with their hands clasping the crucifix. The priest tells them they have found the ideal ‘partner’ with whom they must share their lives with the following words: ‘You have found your cross! It is a cross that you must love and take with you every day of your lives. Know how to appreciate it.’

“After kissing the cross, the spouses enthrone it in a place of honor in their homes, showing their profound belief that a family must be born of the cross.”

In moments of trials common to all marriages, “both spouses kneel before the crucifix and with unwavering faith ask for strength to endure them, for Our Lord’s yoke ‘is easy, and his burden, light.’ This attitude is consistent with the belief that the cross will give them the strength to overcome daily trials if they grounded their marriage on it.

“The spouses are keenly aware that if one abandons the other, they will abandon Christ. Experience teaches that the source of perseverance through which they will gain eternal life can only come from the Cross of Christ rather than any external factor.”

Children learn this tradition of bringing their own anxieties to the “family crucifix and direct their early prayers to the cross” so that they “face the vicissitudes of life with a supernatural spirit.”

Christ is always the third Person in a Catholic marriage.